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German Edition of Healed and Set Free by Tammy Brown
re you tired of the hollow feelings that unacceptable hurts bring? Do you know what I'm talking about?

One of the interesting things about us humans is we can get stuck in wrong thinking and a bad mood. Whatever it is, control issues, fear, anger, resentment, anxiety, being cynical, etc. – we simply get stuck there and sometimes we just "live" there. We simply settle!

This becomes the new way of living. And many times it’s not because of something we have done – no – it’s because of "those people"! We think "They did it!" The roots of bitterness lives in us and effects how we feel, react and look at life. Staying angry for long periods of time can turn into 5 years, 25 years or 40 years. We get stuck! It can create a person we really don't want to be.

Now – there are lots of times when it’s appropriate to get angry. But staying angry for long periods of time is another thing. Staying angry, holding grudges and choosing the path where you drink the poison of unforgiveness is a place of being stuck! Life is too short not to be healed & set free to live, to really live the abundant life. The four powerful tools and nine chapters in Healed & Set Free… from past hurts can change everything.

My question for you today is this: Can you give up the war? Do you want to "rise up" to become all that God created you to be? Do you want to love fearlessly? Are you ready to allow God into the secret places of your heart to set you free? "And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free." (John 8:32)

Right thinking leads to joyful living! Starting is the beginning to become healed & set free. This inspired and powerful Bible study called Healed & Set Free… from past hurts is used by individual women, in group Bible studies and book clubs. It's being used in over 12 countries.

Healed & Set Free… from past hurts Content

Table of Contents

  • About the Author
  • Chapter 1 Getting Real with God
  • Chapter 2 Knowing God's Heart
  • Chapter 3 Letting Go of Anger
  • Chapter 4 Forgiving the Unacceptable
  • Chapter 5 Conquering Depression
  • Chapter 6 Body Image
  • Chapter 7 Remembering to Forget
  • Chapter 8 Two Become One: God's Design for Marriage
  • Chapter 9 Healed & Set Free
  • Q & A on Everlasting Life and How to Pray
  • Glossary
  • Scripture References
  • Endnotes
  • Leader's Guide

Questions We all Want Answered:

  • Why can't I forget about the lingering hurts?
  • Why does the pain still flood my mind?
  • Why is all the hate and shame still in my heart?
Learn life-changing answers to all these questions.

Heal the shattered heart (God's way.) To give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

Questions We all Want Answered:
Why can't I forget about the lingering hurts?
Why does the pain still flood my mind?
Why is all the hate and shame still in my heart?
Learn life-changing answers to all these questions.

Heal the shattered heart (God's way.) To give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

Throughout her life, Tammy Brown has experienced much heartache:

Once she decided to allow God to work, He was able to set her free from her past hurts. Her story is told throughout this study.

Look in the Book

Which Tool Comes First: See or Forget? - Chapter 1, page 15

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Does it surprise you that the first tool is SEE, not FORGET? Many times we just want to jump ahead to FORGET because the hurt is so painful we want to push it away, acting as if nothing has happened, but it doesn’t work that way. Those lingering pains have a way of negatively impacting our lives and the lives of those around us. In order to be healed & set free from our past, we must first be able to clearly SEE what is left over in our hearts towards those who have wronged us along the way or personal regrets so that we can bring it to God, our ultimate Healer.

Satan Wants to Keep Us in Shackles The opposite of God’s compassion and healing is Satan’s lies and destruction. Some of us have been shackled down with burdens of guilt, shame, bitterness, fear and discouragement since childhood. We are tired of trying to stand, let alone walk under a heavy load. One thing you need to know is hurt doesn’t

(note: the above is an excerpt from the Healed & Set Free… from past hurts Bible study, chapter 1)

God Heals the Brokenhearted - Chapter 1, page 19

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Prayer: Bow your heart before the Lord prior to completing today’s Bible study. God, give me a heart to SEE the truth about what has made me sad, disappointed, angry and a prisoner to my past. “The spirit of a man will sustain him in sickness, but who can bear a broken spirit?” (Proverbs 18:14).

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3).
1. “To heal” means to mend, to get better, to put right, to restore, cure, cause to heal or be healed. Are you ready to open up all of your heart to the only One who can heal it? Yes or no?
What area of your life do you need to work on the most?
What concerns, fears, or pride keep you from opening your heart to God?

(note: the above is an excerpt from the Healed & Set Free… from past hurts Bible study, chapter 1)

When You Hate Someone - Chapter 1, page 32

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How To Be A Slave

Hate somebody
The moment you start hating a man you
become his slave

He controls your thoughts,
he invades your dreams

He absorbs your creativity, determines your appetite
He affects your digestion,
He robs you of your peace of mind
He takes away the pleasure of your work

You cannot get away from the man you hate

He is with you when you are awake
He is with you when you sleep
He invades your privacy when you eat

He influences the tone of your voice when you speak
to your wife, child, or boss

He requires that you take medicine for your
Indigestion, headaches, loss of memory
He steals time and dissipates energy

Do you want to be a slave and hate them?

Anger - A Strong Feeling - Chapter 3, page 76

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Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance or hostility. It often begins with something small: a ticking clock in the room. An annoyance. An aggravation. Nothing huge, just a small frustration.

Your hair stylist is twenty minutes behind schedule, disrupting your carefully planned day. The cashier at the supermarket is slow, the line is long, and you're in a hurry. Your dinner guests will arrive in five minutes, and dinner is burned. The ticking clock-tick tock. Tick tock. Tick tock.

However, keep stacking up these frustrations and annoyances, and before long you've got a trash can full of hostility, reflecting attitudes of bitterness and anger. You'll becoming a ticking bomb, with uncontrolled rage that's ready to explode at any minute.

Anger is powerful. It can lead us into so many other destructive behaviors. Being angry isn't just bad for your heart, it's bad for your health: it can make you physically sick, or shorten your life.

Anger doesn't go away on its own. If left alone, it will find ways to express itself, hurting those who get in the way or burrowing into your heart in roots of bitterness. You might be angry with someone who made a mistake. Maybe you're angry with yourself, someone you trusted, maybe even God.

Resentment is something that happens to me, and I say, "Well, if you're going to do that to me, I'll send it right back!" It's an exchange. "They never call me, so I won't call them!" This stalemate is resentment.

When someone's mere presence makes your blood boil, that's resentment. When you hear someone's name and your mood instantly changes, that's resentment. These little "checks" are evidence that something is wrong in your spirit, "an indication that something in your past that's not resolved. The Lord may be trying to show you that you haven't forgiven."

Life is to short NOT to be healed & set free from bitterness and resentment.. Take a moment to search your heart for any times like the ones mentioned. TODAY IS A NEW DAY TO START FRESH!

(note: above is an excerpt from chapter four of Healed & Set Free… from past hurts Bible Study by Tammy Brown)
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What Forgiveness is Not - Chapter 4, page 106

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Forgiving the Unacceptable
Many people over the years have asked me the same questions about forgiveness: How do you forgive a person who has passed on? A person you don’t trust? A person who refuses to talk to you? These questions arise over and over from those seeking to forgive, but forgiveness is between us and God. The word “restoration” is defined as: the return of something to a former owner, place or condition. Doug Easterday points out the truth of God’s promise to restore the fullness of our lives, no matter what has happened to you, through forgiveness.
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(note: the above is an excerpt from the Healed & Set Free… from past hurts Bible study, chapter 4)

Hide and Seek - Chapter 4, page 108

As an only child, one of my favorite things to do was to go to my cousins’ house. I can still remember playing hide and seek in the dark when I was seven years old. The excitement of the game left me breathless as I hurried to find the best hiding spot. I could feel my heart pound with anticipation at the thought of being caught at any moment. Alone in the dark I waited, when suddenly, I felt a hand on my shoulder. Expecting to find one of my cousins behind me, I was shocked to see my uncle standing there as if to say, “I got you.”

His hands touched me in a way that felt uncomfortable, and I knew something was very wrong. Who would have thought my favorite childhood memory would become my worst nightmare? This incident was the beginning of a long pattern of sexual abuse by my uncle. Every time I was dropped off at my cousins’ house, my uncle would come for me. I would try to get away from him, but he would always find me and take me to his “private” place.

Every night as my parents tucked me into bed, I longed to tell them what was happening. If only I could whisper in my mommy’s ear, “Please don’t take me back to that terrible place.” But the thought of confessing was quickly overtaken by my uncle’s voice echoing in my ears: “If you tell your parents, I will kill them.” As my heart pounded, I would simply say, “Good night,” and cry myself to sleep. I was left feeling dirty and unworthy of love. As I grew up, I went from lonely little girl to out-of-control teen, partying in a vain attempt to numb the pain.

Years later at a family wedding, my cousin was dancing with my two year old son, Caleb. I was full of joy while watching him, but when I saw my uncle walk toward him, my heart filled with rage as the memories of how my uncle had hurt me came rushing back. Paralyzed by fear, I watched as my uncle reached out to take Caleb. Turning to my father, I desperately choked out, “Go get Caleb.” My parents grabbed him and we left the wedding.

God used this incident to trigger a chain of events that would change all our lives forever. We found out that every one of my cousins and all of the neighborhood kids had been sexually abused by my uncle. Seeking justice, we took it to court, and my uncle was sentenced to fifteen years in prison. But being abused had a far greater sentence for us, the victims. My cousins were destroyed by the trauma. Some of them turned to drugs, or even suicide in an attempt to numb the pain. And despite having justice, I was consumed by the memories. I felt insecure, vengeful, short-tempered and critical.

After living with these feelings for a long time, I finally decided to face the truth and stop giving God a false performance. I learned life-changing insights that healed and set me free from my past. Life is too short to let anger rule! No one needs to suffer in silence like I did for twenty years. Thankfully, God’s Word heals! Jesus is near to the broken-hearted, and He will use the pain from our past to create a beautiful testimony that will glorify Him.

(note: the above is an excerpt from the Healed & Set Free… from past hurts Bible study, chapter 4)

The Cross of Forgiveness - Chapter 4, page 108

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The cross exemplifies the love of God. From the cross, God provided forgiveness for people who were bound to fail, but who would return to Him someday to seek His mercy and forgiveness. God sent His Son, Jesus, to be the sacrifice for our sins. He bore our sins on the cross: every sin, every evil thought, every wrong action. Because God is truth He cannot lie, and His Word continually tells us that He wants us to be in a trusting, loving relationship with Him.

“Thus God, determining to show more abundantly to the heirs of promise the immutability of His counsel, confirmed it by an oath, that by two immutable things, in which it is impossible for God to lie, we might have strong consolation, who have fled for refuge to lay hold of the hope set before us” - Hebrews 6:17-18.

(note: the above is an excerpt from the Healed & Set Free… from past hurts Bible study, chapter 4)

Spiritual Warfare - Chapter 4, page 109

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The battles we face and the power of Satan are real. As Christians, we need to know that Satan will do whatever it takes to stop us from being healed and set free, especially when it comes to forgiveness. Satan hates what Jesus did on the cross, and would like nothing more than for us to think the cross has no power for forgiveness. But Satan is a liar. “He speaks from his own resources, for he is a liar; the father of lies” - John 8:44. Satan’s highest priority is the destruction of your Christian life. As people in Christ, we need to resist the devil and his lies, and stand strong in the days to come, especially when it comes to the power of the cross for the forgiveness of sins!

(note: the above is an excerpt from the Healed & Set Free… from past hurts Bible study, chapter 4)

What the Enemy Knows About You - Chapter 4, page 109

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Take a moment to pray before reading the following questions, and ask God to open your eyes to see the spiritual warfare happening in your life.

Do you know your own heart, weaknesses, insecurities and struggles? Answer the following questions about yourself in order to guard yourself from Satan’s attacks.
He knows you. When do you get stirred up?
He knows your weaknesses. Recognize and write your weaknesses down.
He knows your fears and insecurities. What lies has Satan been whispering in your ears to activate your fears and insecurities?
He knows your struggles. What struggles tempt or lead you to failure?

(note: the above is an excerpt from the Healed & Set Free… from past hurts Bible study, chapter 4)

Are Grudges Holding Your Marriage Back? - Chapter 8, page 237

Share on Facebook If you're anything like me, grudges are easy to hold onto. Grudges can become a part of life at a very young age. After all, do you remember learning the alphabet or how to count in elementary school? Of course you do! Do you remember learning "hurt + grudges = a negative, unforgiving heart"? I think you get my point. I wore glasses as a child and everyday I was the brunt of jokes and name calling; playground teasing that was harmless child play. We've all done it, making fun of someone for a laugh. That's where the sinful habit of grudges can start. Harboring grudges can be harmful not only in friendships, but also in marriage.

Have you ever found yourself harboring a grudge? "One of the most common grudges outside of a marriage is being angry with your parents for past hurts, for a lousy upbringing or for breaking up their marriage and family," L. Lowe, writes. "Another common grudge is against a friend who wronged us, and who we feel has never made amends. It eats away at us, and we complain to our spouse whenever we get the chance." I didn't think holding a grudge toward someone outside my marriage could be harmful inside my marriage. Yet, as Lowe writes, "When we focus on these past wrongs, they affect all our relationships, including our marriage. They sap our energy, and our thoughts become negative, our time is wasted." When I looked up the word "pessimistic," I found: "A tendency to stress the negative or unfavorable or to take the gloomiest possible view." Grudges are a waste of time. It's time to move on. It's time to put it to rest by giving it to Jesus.

While grudges against those outside our marriage are certainly harmful, even more destructive are grudges within our marriage. They create a cold, uninterested, unresponsive attitude that lurks at the door of our heart and mind. "Often, they are unexpressed, but closely held. They cloud our interactions and cause defensiveness or an inability to fully celebrate life with our partner. Maybe the grudges are based on old hurts your spouse has long forgotten about," continues Lowe.

Keeping a grudge and refusing to forgive won't help you or your relationship. I don't know why we don't see the danger of holding grudges until we have inflicted pain on the very person we care about the most. Even if your grudge isn't against your spouse, remember that unforgiveness eats at our mind and heart, gnawing away at us bit by bit. Isn't that energy spent brewing over an old wound energy that you would rather spend positively in your life, to bless your spouse and family? Rather than harboring grudges, realize that it's time to begin the process of forgiving and letting them go. Read more in Chapter 8 of Healed & Set Free… from past hurts with Tammy Brown.

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7 Secrets to a Great Marriage - Chapter 8, page 264

Share on Facebook 1st Secret: If it's God's will for you to marry, re-live all of the little things and reasons that made you fall in love with the other person, and then start counting all of the new ones.1

2nd Secret: Start your day by reading the Bible and praying. This allows you to bring the power of the Spirit into your marriage, and helps take the "I" out of marriage (ie: choosing to be selfless).

3rd Secret: Being "there" for your spouse is what being married is really about. It takes time to get to know another person. If you're not available, it can't happen.2

4th Secret: Be appreciative. “Thank you”: Two words spouses don't hear often enough—from one another: "Thank you for being my love" or "thank you for supporting me." Gratitude is not an option. (1 Thessalonians 5:18, “Give thanks in all circumstances.”)2

5th Secret: Your attitude does matter. Changing behavior is important, but so is changing attitudes. Bad attitudes often drive bad feelings and actions.3

6th Secret: Resist holding grudges. As Ruth Graham reminds us, "A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” We choose not to bring up the past. No marriage is perfect, because no husband is perfect and no wife is perfect.

7th Secret: Is it possible to build a marriage that lasts. We focus on this verse, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself'” (Luke 10:27).

1Rachel Palm, “To the Singles from Married Couples”
22Karen O’Connor, “Staying Married for Life”
3Mitch Temple, “Ten Secrets to a Successful Marriage”

When Life Hurts... You're Not Alone

When Life hurts.... you're not alone. We live in a fallen world. A world where sin abounds. A world where Satan continually tries to accuse and discourage us. This sad reality is why there are so many of us struggling with hurt and pain.

But there is hope. God has given us everything we need in order to grow and move toward Him and away from the destruction that Satan desires to promote in our lives. We care. Healed & Set Free… from past hurts is a resource of help for victory over life's hurts for women, men or teens. Choose a course of action that will place you on a road to victory.

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You Weren’t Made to Bury Your Pain, You Were Meant to Be Healed and Set Free.

Life can be messy! Have you ever gone through something and just knew that there is no way that anything good could come from it? That is usually how God works. Life brings hurt, fear and disappointments, God creates a powerful testimony.

  • He takes your mess and creates a message.
  • He can take your trial and turn it into a triumph.
  • He can make you into a victor from being a victim.

“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’” (Jeremiah 29:11)

Author Tammy Brown opens up about her journey to overcome the trauma of sexual abuse, date rape, anger, insecurity, negative self-image and shame. Tammy discovered that we don’t need to be held prisoner to our past. She offers four powerful tools to help readers along their own journey to healing. Freedom is for everyone who wants it!
Experience how beautiful life can be when God is welcomed in to heal life’s hurts.

Healed and Set Free Bible study takes readers on a 9-week journey to:

  • Overcome past wounds.
  • Respond in wisdom when offended.
  • Understand how to truly forgive.

Healed and Set Free is currently being used in 12 countries, as God’s love changes lives around the world. It can be used individually or in a small group setting and is EXCELLENT for biblical counseling. The leaders guide is included in the back of the book.

Jesus has Restored my Sanity and Marriage. By Vicki, Idaho
"I did not know how to apply God's word to my personal life. It seemed to me that there were no other Christians with my bad attitudes and feelings." - Vicki

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